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JUST A FORMALITY

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The title of this entry is quite in regular parlance of those all self-acclaimed liberal who want to portray themselves as the torch-bearers of bringing radical change (a good-one) in society by doing away with all those conventional/traditional themes that have gone clichéd over time, as per their plagiarized intellect. The harsh allegation by the author are defended on the basis of the fact that knowledge never grow of its own, there are definitely many source of easily forgettable inspirations which helps in building the intellect of a person. This hostility towards the class that uses these words is not innate one but have been under construction since the author has started visualizing and conceptualizing various shades of human-nature. The ever bewildering human-nature in reality is just a big dichotomy as being able to show-case both awe-inspiring and disgusting facets at times. 
  
This writing is one such quest to make an understanding of these-very use of words “JUST A FORMALITY” in various contexts and under various circumstances. The condition that pinches the most is when the utterers of these words use them while they themselves are performing the same task whose enactment to them symbolizes mere formality.  There is mass contradiction of vac and karma i.e. speech and action. When others does it’s a formality and when one does, it’s still name-sake but essential to appease others. Might not be able to ring a bell to many, so in a humble attempt let me try to elucidate more easily with an example: there is all accepted tradition of seeking blessings from the elders in major portion of our nation. There are lots of opinions about this activity from being seen as mere formality to keeping up the traditional values, for some it’s an opportunity to prove their innocent personality and to project their humility. But for many they just don’t perform it for the sake of doing it nor are they compelled.  They do it because they feel to do it and they make peace while committing it. Now it all depends on the opinions of the two individuals involved in the act and the observing stand-byers, to assign which tag. There is many more such kind of examples if one tries to concentrate proximately; e.g. wishing teachers, marriage customs, some festivity, asking about well-beings of kith and kin (which many-a-times used as prop for breaking the ice but not always ), etc.
Some endorse generality and some abstraction, but the reality is not every thing is abstract as it is generally thought of. There are vast majority of theories which represents very general of ideas. But what differentiate them from generality is the touch of abstract-thought-process that emerged from the minds who challenged the existing notions with astounding facts and dawn-inspiring theories. This symbiosis makes us believe in miracle that a human form is. Simplistically stating, it takes a hell lot of consumption of calories by brain to come up with a revolutionary idea that enlighten the mankind than mere utterance of the three titular words. So stop being naïve and judgemental. Learn from life and from others rather than wasting energy for some nonsensical purposes that could be utilized for some smart thought process. In simple, if you don’t like it then just don’t do it and if you are doing something then for the sake of that work at least do it little jubilantly. And stop judging others act as they might having the jolliest time while performing it and you mistook their form of expression as just a formality. 

 Lately there is something called love( not talking about the lovebirds kindwala but the one which contains sense of affection, respect, caring and bondingwala) which must never be seen or transposed with formality. Elder shower their love; young-ones are the seekers with role reversal possibility with special circumstances. Instead of bifurcating traditional or vogue custom into mere formality and acceptability, one should work on gaining more conscience. So that during the disposition of an act, by carefully noticing the interactions of various human expression, both emotional plus bodily and after proper usage of hitherto life-experience stored in the brain, then should the final decision be made to differentiate, that to if it is too necessary to do so. Otherwise just enjoy yours and let others enjoy theirs. A simple, yet an effective approach.

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